I help widows find freedom to create an intentional life.
Life after loss changes everything, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of your story. You’re not starting over, You are creating Part 2.
If you’re feeling stuck between honoring the love you’ve shared and wondering what comes next, you’re not alone. I’m a widow too, and I know what it’s like to wonder if life will ever feel whole again.
Through compassionate one-on-one coaching, I’ll help you find freedom from self-doubt, fear, guilt or loneliness by understanding yourself more deeply, processing your emotions with compassion, strengthening your relationships, and rediscovering your purpose so you can intentionally create a future you truly love.
Intentional Living After Loss
Live with Greater Freedom
Trust Yourself Again
Create a Life You Love
Free Emotion Color Wheel
Love or Fear?
What are you really feeling? I see emotions a little differently.
Download my FREE Emotion Color Wheel and discover a simpler way to identify, what you're feeling.
Once an emotion is identified, we have an opportunity to process and learn from that feeling instead of avoiding, resisting, or reacting to it.
One of the ideas behind my Emotional Color Wheel is that our emotions can be traced back to two opposing feelings: LOVE and FEAR
I've arranged opposing emotions across from one another on the wheel, using contrasting colors to make them easy to identify. This gives you another way to explore what might be underneath the emotion you're experiencing. And remember, emotions aren't always experienced in exactly the same way. Surprise, for example, can be experienced as pleasurable or uncomfortable.
Emotions are not "Negative"
You'll notice that the wheel divides emotions into "positive" and "negative" categories. I don't personally believe emotions are positive or negative. Some emotions may simply be more pleasurable to experience than others.
An emotion isn't bad just because it feels uncomfortable.
In fact, every emotion has something to teach us.
Emotions are not the problem. Learning how to identify, process and understand them gives you so much freedom!
The Emotion Color Wheel is not an exhaustive list of emotions, but a valuable tool to help you identify what you’re feeling—the first step in processing emotion. Begin with “I feel … “
want to feel better?
You Don't Have to Be Afraid of Your Emotions
Your emotions aren't something you need to fear, fix, avoid, or resist. You can learn to understand them, process them, and move through them with confidence.
And when you understand your emotions, you have more freedom to choose what comes next.
If you'd like to learn how to make every emotion work for you, I'd love to help.
DOES THIS FEEL FAMILIAR?
Maybe you've been telling yourself...
I don’t know who I am anymore.
I feel guilty when I experience joy.
I second-guess every decision I make.
Everyone expects me to move on, but I’m not ready.
I don’t want to forget my spouse, but I don’t want to stay stuck either.
I’m tired of simply surviving.
- You are not broken
- You are not doing it wrong
- You simply need someone who understands the journey and can help you take the next step.
A Different Way Forward
Find Freedom Through Intentional Living
You can’t change what happened, but you can discover a new way to move forward. Together we’ll focus on three key areas that help you create greater freedom, confidence, and purpose.
Understand Yourself More Deeply
Discover how your thoughts shape your experience so you can respond with greater awareness and confidence instead of feeling overwhelmed by life's circumstances.
Feel with Compassion
Learn to experience grief, fear, guilt, and joy without avoiding, resisting, or feeling controlled by them. As you develop this skill, you'll find greater peace and emotional freedom.
Live with Purpose
Rediscover your purpose, strengthen your relationships, and intentionally build a life you truly love with greater freedom, confidence, and joy.
I've Walked This Uncertain Road Too
I don't coach widows because I lost my husband. I coach widows because I learned how to intentionally rebuild my life after loss.
After thirty-four years of marriage, I became a widow while finishing my life coach certification.
Just weeks later, the home my husband and I had built together flooded, top and bottom floors had to be completely rebuilt. Looking back, I realize I wasn’t only rebuilding a house. I was learning how to rebuild a life.
Over the next several years, I continued applying the same coaching tools I now teach my clients. They saved my life! I learned to understand my thoughts, process my emotions, strengthen my relationships, rediscover my purpose, and eventually embrace a beautiful Part 2.
I still miss my husband. That love will always be part of my story.
But I also know that honoring the life we shared and intentionally creating a meaningful future are not opposites.
They can exist together.
If trusting yourself feels difficult right now, borrow my belief in you until you discover your own.
Real women. Real growth. Real hope.
See what clients have experienced through coaching.
Every coaching journey is unique, but one thing remains the same. My goal is to help each client feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical tools that create lasting change.
Your story isn’t over. Together, we’ll create Part 2, one intentional step at a time.
Your Next Step
Let's take this one step at a time.
Schedule Your Discovery Call
We'll meet online for a relaxed conversation about where you are, where you'd like to be, and whether coaching feels like the right next step.
Begin Your Coaching Journey
We'll meet one-on-one each week as you learn practical tools to understand yourself more deeply, process emotions with confidence, strengthen your relationships, and intentionally build your Part 2.
Live with Greater Freedom
As you continue applying these tools, you'll begin trusting yourself again and creating a life filled with greater purpose, confidence, peace, and joy.
Why I Believe Part TWO Is Possible
Honor Your Past. Embrace Your Future.
No one chooses this journey.
No one prepares you for what happens next.
Losing your spouse changes your world in ways few people truly understand.
It can leave you wondering who you are now, questioning your future, and feeling torn between honoring the love you’ve shared and allowing yourself to experience joy again.
I understand those feelings because I’ve lived it.
After losing my husband of thirty-four years, I found myself asking, “now what?” I could curl up in a ball, cry and then spend the rest of my life believing my best years were behind me, or I could intentionally begin creating what I now call Part 2.
That didn’t happen overnight.
The journey isn’t easy, but the coaching tools I learned gave me a way to move through the hard things with greater clarity, confidence, and intention. They didn’t take away the pain or uncertainty. They helped me navigate them more intentionally and keep moving forward.
As I learned to understand my thoughts, process difficult emotions, strengthen my relationships, and rediscover my purpose, I found something I never expected.
Freedom.
Not freedom from grief.
Freedom to live fully while carrying love with me.
Today I help other widows discover that same freedom.
Because I believe this with all my heart:
You are not starting over.
You are creating Part 2.
If trusting yourself feels difficult right now, borrow my belief in you until you discover your own.
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